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How to Use Emotional Data at Work, Part IV: When Emotions Are Used to Manipulate

Here’s a different kind of example of the use of emotional data to help individuals work more effectively. A frontline manager in a service company was known to have an emotional hair trigger. When Charisse didn’t care for the way a conversation was going, she would lower her voice, her lip would tremble and, in [...]

How to Use Emotional Data at Work, Part III: Helping Colleagues Regulate Emotions

No matter how important it is to take everyone’s feelings into account, it’s still not reasonable to expect tears, shouts, or clenched jaws in the workplace every day. Excessive or poorly directed emotions do get in the way of the work. So now that you’ve had some more practice coping with your own emotions (See [...]

How to Use Emotional Data at Work, Part II: Managing Your Own

Emotions in the workplace: You may not like them, but they’re there, all right, and you can’t get rid of them. “Feelings and emotions” reminds me of those “ring around the collar” ads for Wisk back in the ’70s: “You’ve tried soaking them out and scrubbing them out, and still you get” feelings and emotions, [...]

How to Use Emotional Data at Work, Part I: Face It! We’re All Human

Anyone who says feelings have no place in the workday might as well say that breathing has no place in the workday. A human without either one is a corpse. The feelings are there. Feelings are facts. And just like any other facts, they have to be taken into account so that you can make [...]

Feedback Resistance

Nobody enjoys being critiqued, corrected, or criticized. It’s hard to hear that we’re not good enough, or that we’re not okay just the way we are. It’s hard even when we’ve asked for the feedback because we want to grow, develop, or simply improve. Even when we agree that the comments are true. So it’s [...]